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In GlaxoSmithKline as a Plant Mechanic for some years, I have faced a lot of problems and had a lot of critics. Some gave constructive criticisms and of course there are more people who always give comments that are very offensive - some true and some are based on their opinions. I also got into arguments/debates because of it exerting all efforts to prove myself right.<> I have to admit I made a lot of mistakes then but hearing cruel words is really not helpful and ruins my day. I had enough of it that I looked for ways not be annoyed by such but found none.
When I had experienced my biggest problem in that company (I was blamed - big time), there was nothing I can do then but to shut my mouth up. While recovering from that misfortune, I continued to stay quiet. Many more problems came and lots more criticism, I then realized that nothing happens when I ignored them. Time passed by and I saw the mistake I had having to protect myself from those type of people.
From then, I promised myself not to be affected by such. I said to myself that if they say something that is not really happening, I’ll ignore it and not argue. If what they say is right, even in an offensive way, I’ll just accept it. Some gave negative comments but I just looked at it as something to improve at or to correct - if what I did is really wrong. Later, as I ignore them they also halted from criticizing my acts.
I have not been very reactive for long time now, and from an email subscription is this quote from Pathways to Perfect Living which I would like to share:
"You need not defend yourself against anything. Whatever is true in you does not need defense, and whatever is false must have no defense. Do not wear yourself out in useless defense, instead, wisely permit the defeat of falseness. What remains will be right."
When I had experienced my biggest problem in that company (I was blamed - big time), there was nothing I can do then but to shut my mouth up. While recovering from that misfortune, I continued to stay quiet. Many more problems came and lots more criticism, I then realized that nothing happens when I ignored them. Time passed by and I saw the mistake I had having to protect myself from those type of people.
From then, I promised myself not to be affected by such. I said to myself that if they say something that is not really happening, I’ll ignore it and not argue. If what they say is right, even in an offensive way, I’ll just accept it. Some gave negative comments but I just looked at it as something to improve at or to correct - if what I did is really wrong. Later, as I ignore them they also halted from criticizing my acts.
I have not been very reactive for long time now, and from an email subscription is this quote from Pathways to Perfect Living which I would like to share:
"You need not defend yourself against anything. Whatever is true in you does not need defense, and whatever is false must have no defense. Do not wear yourself out in useless defense, instead, wisely permit the defeat of falseness. What remains will be right."
In addition is this quote from Jean Sibelius:
ReplyDelete"Pay no attention to what critic says; No statue has ever been erected for a critic."
I loved this article. One thing that I read once that helped me response to criticism non-defensively is that when you get criticism you should first ask questions, then decide what you think, and then move on. It's important because it helps us avoid pay-back! One issue at a time
ReplyDeleteI agree, sometimes you have to ask those you criticize you if you are in doubt of their motives are.
ReplyDeletegreat post. very nice!
ReplyDeleteGreat post and I agree that cruel words are a very unpleasant thing. When I get faced with harsh words I have learned to let it brush off my shoulder and keep doing what I'm doing. Thanks for sharing. Great blog!
ReplyDeleteregards,
Eric