One of my friends told me he has a problem with his board member in his small organization. He said that the person always comes late during their meetings and that he causes delay because he has an important data which should be presented early in the meeting. He is a bit angry already to his fellow. Surprisingly, he asked me how to handle a person like him. Surprising, because he is 10 years older than me. Hearing this I got excited as I will be giving advice just like the leaders I am following.<> Fortunately, the answer came in an instant as I have read issues like this on the previous books that I finished reading. Confidently, the exact phrase I told him was: “tirahin mo yung problema at ‘wag yung tao” (Focus on the problem and not the person.) He asked for an elaboration. In a very calm way, like a teacher to a student, I told him that he should not take things personally. I continued and told him that if he will tell the person that he is wrong for what he is doing, he would probably just defend himself and create an argument. I told him that in my opinion, the better approach is to tell him that being late is wrong because he is needed to come early so that the data will be presented on the right time. I also added for him to tell the lad that if he comes on time, then the meeting can also be adjourned on time. I have to leave the company then that is why I did not know what happened during their next meetings.
Just put yourself into the shoes of the guy who comes in late, would you like to hear your leader tell you that you’re wrong because you’re always late? Or would you rather hear him tell you that being late is wrong?
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